The best art, with the wrong frames, very often lose its shine.
When it comes to conversation, the right frame of mind is an important aspect to make sure that the conversation doesn’t spiral into a complain-fest or a shout match. Whether it’s controversial topics or heartfelt conversations, it’s all about coming to a positive resolution to really solidify a connection.
The three main methods of achieving this are – Simple positive reframe, relational reframe and moral of the story.
Positive reframes are simply providing an alternative view to find a silver lining in the experience. Examples are: “Wow that sounds like a tough time, but hey, at least that’s how you met your best friend!”
Relational reframes are sharing personal experiences in a positive light to show appreciation, understanding and to help push for a positive perspective. An example is “I just went through a break up last year and it was terrible. The only thing I know is that it doesn’t stay that way for long at least.”
Moral of the story is the ultimate of reframing. The simple reason: it talks about beliefs and helps the person address expectations and beliefs.
It is hard to give an example of this as it requires an extended conversation for this to happen, utilising the above methods and a series of other methods taught in our Art of Conversation series.
Come join us for more sessions of Art of Deeper Conversation to learn more!